The marriage remedies families usually follow for a boy focus on Venus (Shukra), which astrologers read as the planet of the wife in a man's chart. Common ones are a Friday fast or puja to Goddess Lakshmi, the Shukra mantra, and charity on Fridays. Families also do Thursday remedies for Jupiter and Saturday remedies for Saturn, and parents often make a vow at the family temple.
These are matters of faith, with no guarantee. For many sons today, the bigger reasons for delay are practical, and those can be fixed.
Why Grooms Face Delay Today
Parents of sons often say the same two things. Fewer proposals come than they expected. And the families they like often say no.
Common reasons, none of which show up in a horoscope:
| Reason | What it looks like |
|---|---|
| Income expectations | Brides' families ask for a salary band the boy is just below |
| Location | He works in a small town or a family business; many girls prefer a metro |
| Family set-up | A joint family with many members, or the expectation that the bride will live with in-laws |
| Her career | The girl earns as much or more and wants to keep working |
| Age gap preferences | The boy's family wants a much younger bride |
| The biodata | An old photo, vague job details, no family information |
| Narrow filters | Same sub-caste, a fixed height, no working women, or only government jobs |
Some of these the family cannot change, like the city. Many it can.
Venus (Shukra) Remedies
Venus is read as the planet of marriage, love and comfort, and in a man's chart as the significator of the wife. When an astrologer finds Venus weak, combust or afflicted, Venus remedies are the usual advice.
What families commonly do:
- Keep a fast on Fridays, often eating once, without salt.
- Worship Goddess Lakshmi or Santoshi Mata on Fridays.
- Chant the Shukra beej mantra, "Om draam dreem draum sah shukraya namah", usually 108 times. Ask the family priest for the right pronunciation.
- Give white items on Friday: rice, sugar, milk, curd or white clothes, to a temple or someone in need.
- Wear clean, light-coloured clothes and keep a fragrance, which some astrologers link with Venus.
None of these costs much. That is a good sign.
Jupiter and Saturn Remedies
Jupiter (Guru) is read as the planet of blessings and wisdom. For a boy, astrologers suggest Jupiter remedies when Jupiter is weak or when they read Jupiter as blocking the 7th house.
| Planet | Day | Common remedy |
|---|---|---|
| Jupiter | Thursday | Fast, wear yellow, offer chana dal or bananas, worship Vishnu or Dakshinamurthy |
| Saturn | Saturday | Light a sesame oil lamp, visit a Shani or Hanuman temple, help a labourer or elderly person |
Saturn is the planet astrologers most often name for a late marriage, especially when it sits in or aspects the 7th house. The reading is usually "late but stable". Saturday remedies are meant to ease the wait, not to change Saturn.
Our guide to the astrological reasons for delay in marriage explains how these placements are read.
Mantras and Vrat for Boys
Mantras and fasts are less common for boys than for girls, but many families still keep them.
Shiva-Parvati prayers are kept by boys and girls alike in many homes. Some boys keep the Monday fast. The Solah Somvar vrat is mostly kept by girls, though some families have sons keep it too.
In South India, some families have the boy recite prayers to Lord Murugan or Lord Venkateswara for marriage. Others do the Kalyanotsavam seva at a Venkateswara temple, where the deity's wedding is performed.
If the boy is manglik, the remedies follow that reading instead. Our guide to manglik dosha remedies covers them.
Remedies Parents Can Do
Many parents believe their prayers help their son's marriage. Common practices:
- The mother keeps a Friday or Thursday fast for her son.
- The parents make a vow at the kuladeivam or family temple, to be fulfilled after the wedding.
- The father or mother offers prayers at a temple known for marriage blessings.
- The family does a small puja at home before sending out a new round of biodatas.
Our page on temples for delay in marriage lists temples families visit across India.
Be careful with costly pujas, gemstones, or anyone who promises a wedding within a fixed number of months. A diamond or a big puja package is not needed for any remedy. Get a second opinion before paying large sums.
Practical Fixes for a Son's Proposals
The remedies are for the family's faith. These fixes are for the proposals themselves.
Present Income Honestly
Write the job with the company name and city, and the salary as a range if the family is shy about the exact number. "₹9 to 10 lakh per year" is clear. "Good package" tells the other family nothing, and many will skip the biodata. Never inflate the figure. It comes out at the first meeting.
Be Clear About Location and Family Set-Up
If he works in Coimbatore and has no plan to move, say so. If the couple will live with his parents, say that too. Hiding it to get a meeting only means a no at the second meeting.
If the family is open to the couple living separately, or to him moving for a job, write that. It widens the pool.
Widen the Filters, One at a Time
Accept a working woman if the family has not. Widen the age range by two years. Widen the area to the whole state. Watch replies for two months after each change.
Fix the Biodata
Use a recent photo in daylight. List every family member with their work. Add the birth details for matching. Our page on biodata for a boy has a filled example, and you can make his biodata here and send it as a PDF or JPG.
Watch for Fake Profiles
When the search moves online, fake profiles follow. If a "girl" or her family asks for money, a gift card or help with a customs fee, stop. Report it to the national cyber crime helpline, 1930, or on the National Cyber Crime Reporting Portal.
Let Him Lead
A 30-year-old man often knows what he wants better than the family's search filters do. Ask him, in private. Then search for that.
For the full picture of why marriages get delayed, read delay in marriage. For the girl's side, see marriage remedies for a girl.
Common questions
What Are the Remedies for Delay in Marriage of a Boy?
Families usually follow Venus remedies on Fridays, Jupiter remedies on Thursdays and Saturn remedies on Saturdays, along with vows at the family temple. None guarantees a result, so pair them with a better biodata and wider filters.
Which Planet Should a Boy Strengthen for Marriage?
Astrologers usually say Venus, the planet they read as the wife in a man's chart. Jupiter and Saturn are also checked, along with the 7th house and its lord.
Is a Friday Fast Good for a Boy's Marriage?
Many families believe so, because Friday is linked with Venus and Lakshmi. Keep it simple, with one meal or fruit, so it does not affect his health or work.
Can Parents Perform Remedies for Their Son?
Yes. Many mothers keep a fast for a son's marriage, and parents often make a vow at the family temple. These are common family traditions.
Why Are Grooms Facing Delay in Marriage Today?
Often because of a gap between the bride's family's expectations and the boy's income, city or family set-up, and because of narrow filters on the boy's side. These can be worked on directly.
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