A typical North Indian Hindu wedding goes roka, sagai, tilak, haldi, mehendi and sangeet before the wedding. On the wedding night it is baraat, jaimala, kanyadaan, granthi bandhan, pheras, saptapadi, sindoor and mangalsutra. Then come vidaai, griha pravesh, mooh dikhai and pag phera. Under the Hindu Marriage Act, a marriage that includes saptapadi becomes complete when the seventh step is taken.
The names change from state to state, and South Indian weddings put the thali tying at the centre. The list below follows the common North Indian order, with the South Indian names given where they differ.
Before the Wedding
Most of these happen in the weeks or days before the muhurat. Not every family does all of them.
| No. | Ritual | When | What happens |
|---|---|---|---|
| 0 | Biodata exchange and kundli match | Months before | The two families share biodatas, and the horoscopes are matched |
| 1 | Roka | Soon after both sides agree | A small family function to "stop" the search. Shagun and sweets are exchanged |
| 2 | Sagai (engagement) | Weeks or months before | Ring exchange, often with a Ganesh puja and the lagan patrika read out |
| 3 | Tilak | A few days before | The bride's brother or father puts tilak on the groom's forehead at his house |
| 4 | Ganesh puja and mandap muhurat | 1 to 3 days before | Puja to begin the wedding work. The first pole of the mandap is set |
| 5 | Haldi | 1 or 2 days before | Turmeric paste applied to the bride and groom at their own homes |
| 6 | Mehendi | 1 or 2 days before | Henna on the bride's hands and feet |
| 7 | Sangeet | The night before, or with mehendi | Songs and dances by both families |
Step 0 is not a ritual, but it is where every arranged marriage starts. If you are still at that stage, you can make a Hindu biodata with gotra and nakshatra first.
Our page on the haldi ceremony covers the paste and the regional names. The roka ceremony, engagement ceremony, mehendi and sangeet each have their own guide too.
The Wedding Day, Step by Step
The marriage itself happens on this night. Everything before it is preparation. In most North Indian families the baraat arrives in the evening and the pheras are done late at night, at the muhurat the pandit has fixed.
- Baraat. The groom arrives with his family and friends, often on a mare (ghodi), with a band.
- Milni and swagat. The bride's family welcomes the baraat at the gate. Elders of both sides hug and exchange gifts.
- Jaimala or varmala. The bride and groom exchange flower garlands on the stage.
- Madhuparka. The groom is seated in the mandap and offered a mix of honey, curd and ghee.
- Kanyadaan. The bride's parents place her hand in the groom's hand.
- Granthi bandhan. The end of the groom's scarf is tied to the bride's chunni or saree.
- Panigrahan. The groom holds the bride's hand and accepts her.
- Pheras. The couple walks around the agni (fire), usually seven times, with the pandit chanting.
- Saptapadi. Seven steps taken together, each with a promise.
- Sindoor daan and mangalsutra. The groom puts sindoor in the bride's hair parting and ties the mangalsutra.
- Ashirwad. Elders bless the couple.
Families differ on the order of the pheras and saptapadi. In some, the seven pheras around the fire are the saptapadi. In others, the seven steps are taken separately, often with the bride touching a small heap of rice or a stone with her toe at each step. Our page on saptapadi meaning explains the difference, and kanyadaan has the full ritual and who can do it.
The mandap part takes two to three hours. Sometimes more. A short Arya Samaj wedding can be done in about an hour.
What Makes a Hindu Marriage Legally Valid?
A Hindu marriage is valid when it is done with the customary rites of either the bride's or the groom's side. That is what Section 7 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 says. Where those rites include saptapadi, the Act says the marriage becomes complete and binding when the seventh step is taken.
So the baraat, the jaimala and the reception have no legal role. If a family's custom includes saptapadi, that is the step that matters in law. A South Indian wedding where the custom is the thali tying is equally valid.
The bride must be at least 18 and the groom at least 21 under Section 5 of the same Act. After the wedding, register the marriage with your state's registrar. It is not hard. The certificate is asked for in passport, visa and bank work.
After the Wedding
| Ritual | When | What happens |
|---|---|---|
| Vidaai | Early morning after the pheras | The bride leaves her parents' home. She throws rice over her head as she goes |
| Griha pravesh | On arrival at the groom's home | The bride kicks a kalash of rice at the door and enters, often stepping in red alta water |
| Mooh dikhai | The same day | The groom's relatives see the bride's face and give her gifts |
| Games | The same day | Finding a ring in a bowl of milk is common in North India |
| Satyanarayan puja | Within a few days | Puja at the groom's home |
| Pag phera | A day or a few days later | The bride visits her parents' home, and the groom comes to take her back |
| Reception | Within the first week or two | Hosted by the groom's family |
Hindu Wedding Rituals in Hindi Names
Many families search for the list by its Hindi name, shadi ki rasme. These are the same rituals: rokna (roka), sagai, tilak, haldi or ubtan, mehendi, sangeet, baraat, jaimala, kanyadaan, gathbandhan, phere, sindoor daan, vidaai, griha pravesh, munh dikhai and pag phera.
Regional Versions at a Glance
The core is shared across India: kanyadaan, the fire, and the seven steps. What changes is the name, the timing and the ritual that families treat as the main moment.
| Region | Main moment | Timing |
|---|---|---|
| Punjab, Delhi, UP, Bihar | Pheras and sindoor daan | Late night |
| Tamil Nadu, Karnataka, Andhra | Thali or mangalsutra tying | Morning |
| Bengal | Shubho drishti and sindoor daan | Evening |
| Maharashtra | Mangalashtak and antarpat removal | Day, at the exact muhurat |
| Gujarat | Hasta milap and four mangal pheras | Day or evening |
| Kerala | Thali tying, often in a temple | Morning, a short ceremony |
Our guide to Indian wedding traditions by state goes through each region.
A Printable Checklist
Most families print a one-page list for the pandit, the caterer and the cousins in charge. A simple way is to copy the three tables above into a phone note and send it to the family WhatsApp group. Add three columns of your own: the date, the time, and the person responsible for the samagri (puja items) of each ritual.
Fix the dates last. Really. The wedding date comes from the muhurat your pandit gives. You can see the year's marriage dates for your city on Drik Panchang before you meet him, then count back for the haldi and mehendi.
Common questions
What Are the Hindu Wedding Rituals in Order?
Roka, sagai, tilak, haldi, mehendi and sangeet come before the wedding. On the wedding day the order is baraat, jaimala, kanyadaan, granthi bandhan, pheras, saptapadi, sindoor and mangalsutra. Vidaai, griha pravesh, mooh dikhai and pag phera follow.
Which Ritual Is Legally Necessary in a Hindu Marriage?
The customary rites of either side. If those rites include saptapadi, the marriage is complete when the seventh step is taken, as per Section 7 of the Hindu Marriage Act.
How Long Does a Hindu Wedding Ceremony Take?
The mandap rituals usually take two to three hours. With the baraat and jaimala, the wedding night runs five to six hours. An Arya Samaj wedding can be done in about an hour.
What Is the First Ritual of a Hindu Wedding?
In most North Indian families it is the roka, which fixes the match. Before that, the families exchange biodatas and match the kundlis.
What Are the Post-Wedding Rituals?
Vidaai, griha pravesh, mooh dikhai, a puja at the groom's home, pag phera and the reception.
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